So my husband and I just found out we're expecting our first child. We've only been married two months and still learning how to adjust to marriage. Now we're making a whole other adjustment which was a bit of a surprise to us, but a pleasant one. So far, however, it's not going very smoothly. At all!

Normally, my husband is the sensitive and emotional one. And I am the mellow, laid back one. Now that my hormones are surging we have two very emotional and overly sensitive people in this relationship, and it's not working. I want to scream at him most of the time for taking everything so lightly and only worrying about himself (he's a soldier in the army and has been out in the field the last two weeks), and he can't seem to understand that I have more emotional needs than typical and why.

This is going to be a very long 8 more months if I don't get some help or someone doesn't clue him in on the changes he needs to make with me.

Help!!!!!

You sound just like me and my husband. We married Sept 2005, got pregnant 2 months later. I too, was normally very laid back and passive. I noticed that I was irratable. However, even though I knew I was extremely hormonal, I did not want to set a negative pattern for us. I really had to fight that irratability off (I guess you could say, deny myself which God calls us to do anyway). If you both think of the other and their needs instead of your own, you'll get along better. Good news: That feeling did not last the entire preg. (about 1/2 of it). Then I calmed down more. With our second preg. I did not have that feeling at all. Hope this helps you a little.

Thank you, it did help! I think just the shock of the pregnancy and him being out in the field and hating being in the army just really didn't combine well. Thank you for the encouragement!

It's a big adjustment, and if you're only a month gone then I wouldn't worry too much, your hormones will likely settle down. Have you spoke to your husband about how you're feeling? It might help if he knows what you're going through.

God luck with the rest of your pregnancy

I am in my 4th pregnancy and I can be really irritable and emotional. My husband had some difficulty dealing with it at first, but we sat down and discussed how we were both feeling and managed to work through it. We both still have our moments, its just part of the deal, but understanding where its coming from makes it easier to walk away instead of escalate a situation. We both try and really listen to what the other one is feeling. Pregnancy is a huge change for both of you. He is facing a big responsibilty and may be feeling unsure about his role, and possibly locked into a job he doesn't like. Also the amazing and wonderful woman he fell in love with and just married is changing physically, mentally and emotionally all of a sudden.Throw in the distance of him being out in the field and communication can break down. Sit him down and explain how you feel and ask how he feels without passing judgement. Also maybe buy him a daddy to be book that helps explain and answer a lot of questions he may have. Read it with him so he knows that he's important too. The most important thing is to be a team and listen to one another. Good luck and keep us posted

Thanks for the post on my bulletin! It was really encouraging and helpful. I will def keep you posted! Hope your 4th pregnancy is going well too!