Hi, I have been on this site for awhile now although not as long as some of you. I have been with my boyfriend(Matt) now for a year and a half even tho im only 18 im pretty sure that he is the one i wanna be with for the rest of my life. I wanna have kids, settle down and have a family. Not yet though i was think 4-5 years down the track. Matt hates kids and isnt interested at all in getting married or settling down. Family means alot to me and has always been my dream to have my own. I have tried talking to him about it but he always says the same thing and sometimes he even says its never going to happen and if i want it to happen i should find someone else. I love him alot and i dont wanna leave him. But should i have to give up my dreams becoz he is afraid of committment??? Please give me some advice.

Jacinta xx

Hes a afraid of commitment as you just said
Personally I don't believe you 2 have a future as he doesnt even want to get married nor have children which is a life long dream.
JMO I would leave him or he might not be able to have children and he hasnt told you and thats why he doesnt want to have children or get married, there could be a story to why he doesnt want to get married or have children or he might just have commitment problems you HAVE to keep talking to him and try get something out of him

hope this helps
Brieal

I think he is afraid of commitment and if he insists he does'nt want to get married or have children then your relationship is going nowhere.

You would love to get married and have children and if he does'nt relise it tell him straight, ask him to give you an explination to why, don't except and answer like "i don't know" or "I just don't". There is a reson behind everything and if he does'nt want to share it with you so be it. You deserve someone who can look after you and someone who shares the same dreams as you.

Stacey .x

Hmmmm you two are very young, maybe once you are a bit older he will want the full on commitment but maybe for now you should enjoy being young and in love and worry about him agreeing to marriage and children a bit later on? People change a lot between 18 and 23 and by the time you get to that age and have been togetehr for such a long time then it will be clear whether you want to be with him forever or not.

Thanks everyone. I guess we still are growing up and i promised my mum i woodnt have kids b4 21 so thats kind where im going be asking the questions again he will he 25 then so hopefully he will have grown up a bit. and decided he feels the same as me

Jacinta90 wrote:

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Hi, I have been on this site for awhile now although not as long as some of you. I have been with my boyfriend(Matt) now for a year and a half even tho im only 18 im pretty sure that he is the one i wanna be with for the rest of my life. I wanna have kids, settle down and have a family. Not yet though i was think 4-5 years down the track. Matt hates kids and isnt interested at all in getting married or settling down. Family means alot to me and has always been my dream to have my own. I have tried talking to him about it but he always says the same thing and sometimes he even says its never going to happen and if i want it to happen i should find someone else. I love him alot and i dont wanna leave him. But should i have to give up my dreams becoz he is afraid of committment??? Please give me some advice.

Jacinta xx

Sounds like you two aren't compatible and one of you will never be happy