Really, I wish that you would stop taking offense to everything that I say and realize that I'm not bashing you I could bash you but that would solve nothing and I refuse to do it. I'm saying that this is hard on me and I'm 5yrs older than you. I can drive, I have a car, and work and do all that stuff but I still have my head in my hands worried that I will fail. You're 15 and I don't even think that you have a permit yet or you might I have no idea but do you own your own vehicle to get your baby to the dr or anywhere else that you need to go? I'm just saying that things might have been easier if you had waited at least until after high school. That is not bashing that is stating a hard to swallow fact and I'm sorry. I don't think that another site will baby you either cuz the world is full of teen parents and all of them that have actually grown up wish that they had waited. I hope thatyour family will continue to help you and support you but eventually you have to do it on your own.

DezzyMae123 wrote:

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I don't think mane of you understand teenage mums.
Like myself i had it hard in childhood. i always wanted someone to. And people AGAINST teen pregnancy should be ashamed.

i didn' live off my parents or the goveremanti did it myself and i cnn tell you most teens do the same. it's most of the single mums these days tat live of benefits.

First of all. I hate it when people use their childhood as an excuse. Because thats all it is, an excuse for messing up. My dad drugged and beat me as a child, he'd have competitions with his friends to see if me or my brother would pass out from too much alcohol when i was four. My mum hates me and kicked me out of home when I was 11. I lived with friends and my grandma until I was 16. Now I'm forced to live with my mum because I have no where else to go. All my life I've wanted a loving family. But that in no way means that I would try to get pregnant to compensate. So, don't blame childhood experiences coz not everyone comes out so delusional.

Second, Most teen mums are too focused on their boyfriend or the father of their baby to give a crap. Six girls from my old school, who would be in the same year as me if I had stayed, are pregnant. They all left school and live with their parents. I don't know one teenage mother who is emotionally, or otherwise, stable on their own. So no, you can't tell me most teens are.

Third, single mums have it the worst because they're alone and are supposed to be old enough to be independent. They should be able to provide, but they will always beat themselves up for something they can't give to their child. At their age, they can't rely on their parents. Raising a child alone in any situation would be difficult.

I don't have the means to offend anyone, I just want to get my thoughts across.

DezzyMae123 wrote:

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Like myself i had it hard in childhood. i always wanted someone to.

So you were in a bad situation and had a baby to make yourself feel better. That is teenage logic.

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And people AGAINST teen pregnancy should be ashamed. It doesn't matter how old you are as long as you prepare yourself and keep your baby healthy and look after them the best you can.

You should be ashamed for advocating something that is so detrimental to so many.

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I give the teen mums alot of respect because i knoe how hard it is thinking about you optoins and to bring a child into the world is th bst feeling. if you really don't have anything nice to say about teenage mothers please just leave the discussion.

If you don't like hearing what people have to say about the ideas you spew, don't post on a message board.

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My baby girl is nearly 3 and she has had everythin in the world i had the money tolook after her and i did the best i could

You gave birth at 15 and "had the money to look after her? Explain that? Are you McCully Culkin or something? Do you know how much it costs to have a baby? Hospital delivery alone costs between $5000 and $12,000, not including prenatal visits. How did you pay for that?

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her daddy left us

Because he was a teenager and unprepared.

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but she does have a daddy who has looked after her asif shewas his own.

That is great. Who paid for you and the baby in between the time the bio dad left and the new one stepped up?

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i didn' live off my parents or the goveremanti did it myself and i cnn tell you most teens do the same. it's most of the single mums these days tat live of benefits.

Can you explain how you did it without living off your parents? Who paid the medical bill, the diapers, the formula, etc. when you were only 15?

Here are the positives to being a teen mother...
Mom, Dad, and Baby can all be in school at the same time (hopefully not all in the same grade).
You could live to be a great great great great great grandparent. You have plenty of time to have kids, like 37 of them.
You can get out of school easier. I mean, how is the teacher gonna reply when you say "I need a hall pass, my water broke"

Bexie_08 wrote:

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Here are the positives to being a teen mother...
Mom, Dad, and Baby can all be in school at the same time (hopefully not all in the same grade).
You could live to be a great great great great great grandparent. You have plenty of time to have kids, like 37 of them.
You can get out of school easier. I mean, how is the teacher gonna reply when you say "I need a hall pass, my water broke"

OMG!! Bexie, you crack me up!

ok wow today was my first day visiting this site and let me just say im pretty pissed off with these pepole getting on here saying bad things about teenage parents!My name is kasey and i am 19 i found out about a month and a half ago that me and my fiance of 3years are 4months pregant and im so sick of pepole downing teenagers for getting pregant yes my pregancy was not planned but i am making the best of it i am attending college to become a surgical tech.my boyfriend works full time at a car dearlership as a head detalier and a cars sellsmen.i am so sick of these pepole talking about teenagers being on welfare and not taking care of there babies being a teen mom has nothing to do with it what about these 35 year old ladies that keep poping out babies so they can have the government pay for there familes and them getting drunk all the time and leaving there babies with pepole they barely even know so first off it really truly has nothing to do with being a teenager and whats funny is alot of times teenagers are better parents then them anyways.so stop saying things about teenage parents you cant call yourself a good parent just because your older. age is only a number!

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ok wow today was my first day visiting this site and let me just say im pretty pissed off with these pepole getting on here saying bad things about teenage parents!My name is kasey and i am 19 i found out about a month and a half ago that me and my fiance of 3years are 4months pregant and im so sick of pepole downing teenagers for getting pregant yes my pregancy was not planned but i am making the best of it i am attending college to become a surgical tech.my boyfriend works full time at a car dearlership as a head detalier and a cars sellsmen.i am so sick of these pepole talking about teenagers being on welfare and not taking care of there babies being a teen mom has nothing to do with it what about these 35 year old ladies that keep poping out babies so they can have the government pay for there familes and them getting drunk all the time and leaving there babies with pepole they barely even know so first off it really truly has nothing to do with being a teenager and whats funny is alot of times teenagers are better parents then them anyways.so stop saying things about teenage parents you cant call yourself a good parent just because your older. age is only a number!

Did you even really read the posts here? 80% of the repliers on this thread are teens or teen moms. Some of them are even much younger than you and already have kids. Nobody is harassing teen mothers here. Many teens are great mothers. Motherhood is human nature, and you don't need an Einstein brain to know how to take good care of a baby. People are just against the ENCOURAGEMENT of teen pregnancies, against the idea of "have a baby whenever you feel like." Your case is very different. You're 19, and at least you're done with HS, and by the time you give birth, you're probably in your 20's soon. College is also more flexible in terms of scheduling, so it is easier to take care of a baby than working or attending HS. And I don't think your fiance is a teen either, I usually don't see people being head salesmen under the age of 20, probably even hardly under 25. So technically, you're not really in the same boat with those kids, who struggle to finish HS, and dealing with babies and just surviving. And those kids' situations are something we want people to avoid.

Well, Jamie Spears is richer than many of us here even if she is still a teen (yeah, with her own earnings too) But you don't see her coming out and screaming "have a baby whenever you feel like, see how I did it?" I'm not a fan of her or anything, just saying that not all teens are the same, not all teen moms are the same.

By the way, Octomom has tried to conceive when she was a teen, but she just didn't succeed. She is a 35 year-old vessel carrying a 10-year-old brain. (Sorry I don't mean to insult the 10 years old out there)