shes doesnt know what its like to be a mum i look after my child every single day. i cant remember the last time i went out without him. and she doesnt have the responsibility of a child 24/7.
i understand she cant have kids and im really sorry that she cant i cant imagine how i would cope knowing that i couldnt. i would take a strong person. but at the end of the day she doesnt know whats its like to be responsible for a child everyday for the rest of her life.
i wouldnt tell my kids not to do it. when they are old enough they can choose what they want to do. but i would never tell them i was a teen mum so you should be too. just like i wouldnt say to them i did a certain job so you should do it too.

"We come down hard, but if they're happy, we are happy for them. We make sure they understand that they screwed up, but we help them as much as possible."
just cos people fall pregnant young doesnt mean that they screwed up. how dare you say i had my son because i screwed up. you have no right no to say that to anyone. how would you like it if someone said to you, you screwed up having kids but if your happy your happy. thats heaps slack.
B@B! MOMM@ as long as you think you can do it an if you need help ask then you will be a great mum. you dont need to worry about what others say. cos i doubt anyone knows you on a personal level. and know one knows what your capable off. so just go out an prove everyone wrong. show them how good you can be.

and btw i dont know bexie and im not trying to fight with her.
im just saying why cant people leave teens mums alone.
people who are in the late 40's dont have anything said to them but they put there child at risk more then what we do with the chance of down syndrome increasing dramitically??
but you wouldnt say they screwed up.

Okay. If you don't think you screwed up then you didn't, simple as that. Also, if you don't think you screwed up, I don't think you did. You are happy, you love your son, and you do a great job of raising him. But, as I said in an earlier post, many teen moms DO believe they have screwed up, no matter how much they love their child. If they could, they would have had their baby when they were more prepared. If you are happy with your life, then good for you! Less regrets. But I KNOW that if I got pregnant right now or in the next five-six years, I would be sitting around banging my head on a wall, thinking 'STUPID. STUPID. STUPID.' (but that's just me. I'm not telling people to bang their heads on walls, or mentally degrade themselves...) Though I apologize for offending you with that statement, I was just speaking with the limited knowledge I have. (I really am sorry. )

None of the negative talk about teen pregnancy is aimed at individuals here. NONE. You have said that you are solely responsible for your son and that you love him very much and do everything you can for him. That is more than many teen moms can say, though every teen mom I've ever met has been able to say the exact same thing. And I respect every last one of them more than most people who I've actually met.

thanks.
i just dont like when people put down teen muums in general.
but thank you

Ok, I will say it again. I know you can't read my lips, but maybe read this out loud. Teen mothers can be good mothers, but having a child while you are a teenager is not the ideal situation. Telling teenagers that they should have a baby "whenever they want" is irresponsible.


By the way, it was my own teenage pregnancy drama that rendered me unable to have children. So for some of these wannabe moms, a secret teenage pregnancy could end their chances for good. Of course, when you have people glamorizing teenage pregnancy, saying it is easy and fun, making it sound like a trip to Disney rather than the frightening, amazing, annoying, irritating, joyful, frustrating, rewarding, life long commitment that it is, I get worried that impressionable, hormonal, lonely, emotional kids will get the wrong idea.

The reason people don't "leave teen mums alone" is because some teen mothers (and fakers) come in here and start an inflamitory teen mom topic and get pissed when someone doesn't say "awww, you poor thing, you will do fine raising your baby even though daddy walked out, you have no job, you live with your mom, and your 14".

excuse me i was 16. the father walked out. and i still live with my mum and i am doing fine.
i work to support my baby and he misses out on nothing.
so dont even say that.
just because you thought i was wrong to have a child when you were in your teens doesnt mean its wrong for everyone.
im not making it out to be glamourous. but its not all bad.
i dont expect sympathy from anyone. i choose to have a baby young.
what country are you from?
maybe we see things differntly cos were from different countries.
im from australia and our government helps to suuport those who cant do it on there own.
im not in any way saying people should have babys to bludge off the government because i dont agree with that at all. i work and thats how i get my money. but in aus your not left on your own. there is support and support networks

She was using an example, not referring to you. She was saying that we get 14-year-olds on here with their sob-stories, expecting a ton of babying.

Sure, being a teen parent might not be wrong for everyone, but I doubt it's on anyone's list of 'goals in life'. It is MY opinion that no matter how prepared you are, how mature you are, it would be better to wait until you are ENTIRELY stable and can COMPLETELY support the child before you TRY to have kids. My parents waited 4 years after they were married, and my dad wanted to wait longer. I'm not saying I discriminate or think less of those that don't go into it as prepared as possible (I'm way too impatient to not understand.)but it's probably a better idea to wait to try. Accidents, I can completely understand. Trying when you KNOW you aren't prepared, no. THINKING you are ready is not being ready, you can read my post on the first(second?) page of this thread for the logic I use. Teens in general are not prepared enough to be having planned children, whether they think they are or not. (I'm trying REALLY hard not to offend you again, because you seem to get angry easily...)

About half of the women on here are from Australia. I'm not there myself, I'm in Alaska, so I don't think I'm all that qualified to respond to that part of the post... I'm going to anyway, though... the support might make it a bit easier, but it by no means makes it ideal. (Not saying you are living off that, you have stated that you work to pay for your son, and I acknowledge that and am once again speaking about general population.)