hey,
ok so you are the reason i registered for this.
look hunny i was in the same situation as you just over a year ago. the only difference he wasnt protective of me.
when i found out i told the guy i was pregnant and he flipped. he told me if i didnt have an abortion it was over. then i spoke to his parents and they told me that i was stupid and it was the biggest mistake of my life.
i left the guy. he blamed me for everything. and told me i would never ever meet anyone who would want me and blah blah blah.
i spent my whole pregnancy crying and i was just really upset. i did still love the guy but i thought if he could end it that easily with me now what would stop him later.
i have since had the child he is now nearly one and i love every minute i spend with him. he is honestly the best thing to happen to me. and i wouldnt change a thing. my sons name is koby and when koby was three months old i met a guy through a friend.
we have noe been together for just over 8 months and we are having a little girl in march.
so there is a happy ending.
your baby will become your everything. you wont regret it
i hope you make the right choice for you. but just remember your not the only one out there and people will help and support you.
Amy

HI,

Maybe you can afford to look after him by yourself and support from your family but the baby need the father to grow up. It is very unfair for the baby..i will not suggest you to not having the baby,but if the father also loves you i think you both can work out something together. But if he choose to leave you because he doesn't want the baby then you have no other choice except giving up on him and try to give all your love and time for your baby after he/she born. Hope this help.

Gabby

Thank you to everyone who replied, For the advise and encouragement!
Im do know the right thing to do, for me and my baby.

Just trying to find the courage to say a final goodbye. Im Still going to let him have contact with the bub When I have him or her coz yes, It wouldnt be fair for the bub.

Thank You again

I want to let you know that I'm in the same situation as you are. Im 26 years old and I'm 7 1/2 months pregnant with my first baby myself. Me and the babys father are not together. He up and let when I told him I was pregnant. I just now have gotten over it and moved on because I didnt want any stress to effect the baby. My family has been so suportive.
Trust me there was a time were I thought adoption would be the best way to go but I stopped and thiught and prayed about it and I decide to keep Her. I know its hard right now but Im here to say I will get better. Just will take time. God Bless you and keep us posted with your pregnacy. you can message me anytime if you have any questions or just want to chat. Take care

Hello; I havent been on here for a while; I would just like to say everything has settled down a lot and he's not that bad anymore. Maybe it was just the shock and everyones influences around us.

His family arent really that supportive about it, But we've worked a lot out. We've learnt that it is OUR child n not anyone elses. We've spoken about whats bothering us And we're working on our relationship.

Im actually Suprised that he's changed coz leopards dnt change their spots blah blah blah, But he's stopped drinking obsessively, We've both mutually agreed not to have a facebook page. And He doesn't speak to the girls Im uncomfortable with unless im there. I do have doubts every now and then but I'm trying hard not to.

And Im not in denial or anything lol I do know he loves me a lot and thats why he's worked so hard on changing his lifestyle and the way he treats me.

Thank you so much for all your replies its actually made me feel a lot better, and opened my eyes up a bit.

When It comes down to it tho, If anything like this happens, Im just gonna do whats best for me n our baby.

Dump the guy;
keep the kid;
lean on your parents and friends for help;
next time look for a guy who loves kids.
There are a plenty of guys who like kids,
but some need to mature a bit before they are ready.
Unfortunately, some guys never get there.

I was lucky I did not get pregnant during early experience, as neither the guy nor my parents would have been supportive.

Thank the Lord for those who support you in raising a beautiful child; and love this precious gift of life!